How is our self-esteem formed? It is formed from birth, all the experiences we have had, what we have heard and felt and our thoughts we connect to our experiences. If we have low self-esteem, we could have experienced situations that made us feel uncomfortable, unwanted, embarrassed or alone in the past. Neural pathways are formed in our brains every time we think and the more often we have a certain thought, the stronger that pathway becomes. Eventually, it is the way you will automatically think about something.
Why is your self esteem so important to your success then? It is important because as individuals, we cannot perform beyond the limits of the way we see ourselves, whatever those limits may be. So if you have a low self-esteem, you may have more boundaries than a person who has high self-esteem. You might say, I would love to do this, but I am not clever enough – that is a boundary, a self imposed limit, you have put up for yourself.
Negative self-talk, consciously or unconsciously only reinforces the negative thoughts and brings us down. Very soon our minds start believing these statements as true, as facts and our behavior changes according to how we feel.
The way we feel about ourselves, good or bad, has a direct result on our productivity. Feeling low and bad about ourselves will most likely be followed by not being as productive as you could be if you had good feelings about yourself. When we feel good the world looks better, our relationships seem better and our productivity increases but the opposite is also true when we don´t feel good about ourselves. So feeling bad about yourself – effects how productive you are.
High self esteem on the other hand, does not mean having a big ego, people who have a high self-esteem are not arrogant and vain. People with high self-esteems don’t feel the need to compete with others, unlike people with a low self-esteem.
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