Every marriage is going to have ups and down but few things are as destructive as realizing that your wife or husband was having an affair. You simply cannot convince yourself to believe this person you trusted and promised to share your life with would turn around and do something so terrible.
Then comes the stage where you not only have to make the decision as to whether you want to remain married but also begin the process of healing from what they did. It’s not not going to easy but if you want to guarantee healing never occurs then simply complete the following:
1. Continue Replenishing The Pain
You despise your mate’s infidelity so you go the extra mile to keep revisiting it time and time again. All of the the bad thoughts and feelings which you should be dealing with to diminish are placed on a non-stop tape loop in your head. Whenever it seems as though it will go away you will make certain to throw some more gas onto it either by picking a fight with your mate or by grabbing a favorite negative image and then thinking about it until eventually it goes on autopilot.
2. Continually Asking Yourself Why?
You sit down and ponder this specific question at every opportunity. Even when your significant other lets you know exactly why they did what they did you still continue to ask. It is not so much that you are looking for an answer as it is you can’t bring yourself to go forward and start your recovery process.
3. Planning Payback
Your wife or husband committed adultery and you will make them pay the price for their transgression. And then what happens? You spend most of your time and energy thinking up ways to make them experience the hurt you are feeling but the objective will be to cause them to feel it a thousand times worse. The problem is retribution is not just of waste of time but also an exercise for losers. If you really feel that strongly about what they did then go ahead and file for divorce. And even with this it’s best not to practice a scorched…