Jeff Kandyba, Associated Press
In this courtroom sketch, pop singer Taylor Swift speaks from the witness stand during a trial Thursday, Aug. 10, 2017, in Denver. Swift testified Thursday that David Mueller, a former radio DJ, reached under her skirt and intentionally grabbed her backside during a meet-and-a-greet photo session before a 2013 concert in Denver.
As a mother of two daughters, I’m basically in love with Taylor Swift right now.
And not because my fifth-grader plays her song “You Belong With Me” on an endless loop in our family room. In fact, I love Swift in spite of that fact.
I love her because of what she did for girls everywhere recently in a trial where she stood up for herself after being victimized by sexual assault.
The trial stemmed from a 2013 incident when Swift accused DJ David Mueller of groping her. Mueller sued Swift in 2015, saying she falsely accused him and cost him his radio job. Swift countersued for $1, and took the stand in August to defend her story, and the jury agreed she had no fault in Mueller’s firing.
We talk a lot to our girls about how “no means no” and how they and they alone are in charge of their bodies. But here is a woman who is walking the walk, standing up unapologetically for her account of what happened to her that day (and doing so, by the way, in the face of extensive efforts by opposing counsel to make her question her own memory).
Let’s take a look at some of the girl-power awesomeness:
When asked about Mueller being fired from his job, Swift responded: “I’m not going to let you or your client make me feel in any way that this is my fault. Here we are years later, and I’m being blamed for the unfortunate events of his life that are the product of his decisions — not mine.”
This simple sentence cuts to the core of what I want my children — daughters and son — to understand in a very real way. Victims are not at fault. Every man and woman has agency to choose, and when someone chooses to be a sexual aggressor, that decision falls squarely on their shoulders alone.
When asked if she was…